BLOGHow to Start Saying Goodbye to Loneliness
My greatest blessing may be the fact that I was born with an insatiable desire to learn and explore life deeply.
When I was a kid, I remember constantly asking my Dad why things were, how things worked and spent loads of time helping him do things.
I thought I was helping anyway… he may have something else to say about it.
Growing up, I really never understood how people consistently complained about being bored.
There was so much to do!
As I’ve grown older, things haven’t changed much, although they have shifted.
Today, I’m much more interested in how things interrelate and connect.
It’s these new connections that really help to lessen feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Making connections and exploration also helps block out the insidious monkey mind which keeps me in the present moment.
When I was a teenager, I became deeply interested in alternative culture.
Specifically punk, goth and kink.
They were visually interesting, challenged the status quo, the music was great, and there were some solid foundations such as ‘question authority’, ‘stop racism’, ‘open expression’ and ‘violence breeds violence (so look for better ways)’.
What I loved about the kink lifestyle specifically was that you were able to engage in any way that you felt most comfortable.
You could simply observe or dive right in and put on a show for others to watch.
This taught me the value of what my mentor, Neil Kramer, calls “Mapping”.
Before you just dive into something new, get curious and ‘Map’ the topic, culture, experience or whatever as much as you can to make an informed decision.
Be a voyeur for a while to see what really interests you and what feels safe to explore further.
I’ve heard people report diving into this lifestyle too quickly resulting in trauma or just a crappy experience.
It’s also a lot of fun to explore, you make interesting new connections AND get to know yourself on a much deeper level.
Here are a few simple actions to take:
- Develop the courage to explore.
- Ask questions.
- Be open to changing your perspective.
- Understand that everyone on the planet has his or her own unique perspective on everything.
- Know that we are all completely different and unique soul expressions. This makes you inherently valuable.
- Work towards coming from a heart at peace (versus a heart at war) and love.
Curiosity may have killed the cat – but it has made my life a hell of a lot more connected, interesting and enjoyable.
Why You Need To Stop Saying What People Want To Hear – Kyle Cease
Former standup comic turned transformation expert, Kyle Cease helps people evolve through ditching their “old story”. He is the author of the bestselling book “I Hope I Screw This Up” and on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, you’re going to see how the story you tell yourself may be the wrong one.